Blood

Blood is one of those things that people have definite reactions to. Either it bothers them or it doesn’t. They’re queasy or they can handle it. Blood is not a neutral topic. I happen to fall into the former categories.

I live in a small studio. One wall is sliding glass doors that go to what I like to refer to as my “sunporch,” a 3′ by 12′ tiled enclosed balcony where my washing machine is at one end and my oil heater (in a closet) is at the other. I don’t have curtains; they are quite expensive here. So to create a sense of privacy I covered my sliding glass doors with a slightly opaque contact-paper-esque substance. Light still comes into my apartment, but outsiders can’t see in.

Every morning, the first thing I do after stumbling out of bed is open the sliding glass doors to see what the weather is like. Is it sunny? Raining? Yellow sandstorm?

This morning, I opened my sliding glass doors, saw it was sunny, looked down and saw a stream of blood trickling from the oil heater closet, across the tile floor, and into the drain in front of the washer. I screamed, slammed the sliding glass door shut, and jumped back into bed, pulling the covers over my head. “What is bleeding to death in my closet? Do I dare open the doors to find out? How did it get there? Is this really happening?” I looked around the room. It seemed like my room. There weren’t any bizarre features to make me think I was dreaming. I sniffed the air. It didn’t smell like anything was decomposing. Once again, I got out of bed. I tiptoed to the sliding glass doors. Slowly, I slid the end door open. Looked down. Yes, it looks like blood. And a lot of it. My stomach began to turn. I opened the closet door and peaked in.

I didn’t see a small child or dead animal. Which was good. But something was wrong. Gasoline, or oil, or water, or some liquid was dripping. A lot. And combining with rust, or something, I still don’t know what, to create a blood-like liquid that then seeped out from under the closet and across the floor. Good news. Nothing is dead in my apartment. Yet. Bad news. I have no idea what is covering my floor.

I haven’t posted in a few days. I didn’t think it was possible, but my life has taken even more bizarre turns. For the better? For the worse? I don’t know yet. Secret meetings with the owner of the school. I am now head teacher. A trip to Seoul where I think I rode every subway line in less than 24 hours. Homesickness. And I think I just lost one of my Korean friends. But I’m not really sure about any of this. My life now is shrouded in uncertainty. I never know if what I’m saying is what I’m intending. Or if what I’m hearing is the true meaning.

Secret Meetings

Wednesday night the owner of the school pulled me out of class (which *never* happens). “Lori-Ga, tomorrow. Lunch. Here. 12:30. Yes?” Okay. Sure. “Secret-a. No (and he put his fingers over his mouth).” Okay. See you tomorrow.

I arrived to school at 12:30 on Thursday, expecting to go to lunch with Chairman Kim and an interpreter, another Mr. Kim or Mr. Pyon. But instead I was ushered into his office. There was a lot of Korean, and only a little English. The first 10 minutes were “business.” They aren’t happy with the current head teacher. They want me to be head teacher. They will announce it on Monday. Okay, but why aren’t you happy with the current head teacher? What problems are there? I want to make sure that I don’t repeat them. “Monday. Talk-a Monday. Meeting 3:30.” Okay. What will my responsibilities as head teacher be? “Monday. Talk-a Monday.” Okay. “After this session (which ends at the end of the month) have-a 6 days work. Monday-Thursday, Tuesday-Friday, Wednesday-Saturday.” We need to talk about that. The original teachers were hired on a 5 day contract. They smiled, “Yes-a.” So, if you want them to work 6 days, you will need to write a new contract. “Schedule. 6 days classes. Monday-Thursday, Tuesday-Friday, Wednesday-Saturday.” I understand. But if you want them to work 6 days, you will need to compensate them. I do not think they will like this. Again, smiles, “Yes-a. You – problems with former head teacher, other teacher, ignore. Don’t worry. Tell us. We take care.”

I’m feeling a bit nervous. I think, under normal situations, I would do a good job. I have 7 years of teaching experience. I was a mentor teacher in San Francisco. I have experience as a leader. I have experience developing curriculum. I have experience developing tests. My people skills are pretty good. But for some reason, I’m apprehensive. Maybe because nothing has been defined?

The rest of the meeting (20 minutes) was spent asking about my personal life. Was I enjoying Korea? Had I made any Korean friends? Did I have a boyfriend? Then, the marriage talk. “Most Koreans your age, they are married. Parents want their girls married. Before 30. You? Why not married? You beautiful. You smart.” I was married. “Where you husband?” I was married. I am now divorced. “Ooohhhhhhhhh. How long married?” 6 years. “Children?” No. “Why not married?” I’ve never quite figured out how to answer this – to Koreans or to Americans who ask me this. Do you really want to know? Because if you do, it’s going to be more than 1 sentence. And, I’m not sure I want to go into that. You don’t need to know. So, I did what they do when asked a difficult question. I smiled and said Yes-a. And it worked. On to the next topic.

Seoul, 2nd Class

Friday was a holiday here. Tree Planting Day. Which meant no classes. Yeah. And since Thursday is my regular day off, that meant two consecutive days off (I work Saturdays and Sundays). I really wanted to go to Ullendo, a small island off the eastern coast. Wednesday morning Young walked with me to the travel agent. After many phone calls and lots of dialogue back and forth, I realized I wasn’t going to Ullendo. I’m not sure if the ferry didn’t run every day, or if the tickets were sold out, but it wasn’t going to happen. As we were walking back to the school, Young asked me to go to Seoul with him to visit his sister. I told him maybe. He told me he would leave Thursday after his university class. Okay. Okay, I’ll go with you. Would you like me to get tickets? No, no, no. I will do that.

I met Young downtown after his class on Thursday night.”Problem.” What? “No tickets for train.” What? We’re not going to Seoul? “Yes. Tickets for 11:30 pm.” Train? or bus? “Train. But only 9 pm now. Shopping?” No. I don’t want to shop (this was after my “no size-a” day). “Movie?” Sure. After the movie, we headed to the train station. Daegu Station. Which I had never been to before. I always leave from DongDaegu Station (East Daegu). When we entered, the marquis for departing trains only announced 2nd class trains. I looked at Young. What train are we on? He told me. Okay – this will be interesting. The price difference between first class and second class is minimal. But in reality the difference is huge. First class is like travelling in a plush LazyBoy recliner. With tvs, lots of leg room, very clean. Second class is not horrible. But, sitting in a non-reclining, hard, vinyl seat with less leg room than an airplane for four hours, well, let’s just say I’m a huge proponent of value add. And I generally will spend the money to be comfortable on a trip.

We arrived in Seoul at about 3:45 am. We wandered into the streets outside of Seoul Station. There were plenty of people milling around. People at the food booths, standing eating fish on a stick. People stumbling home after a drunken night of revelry. People hurrying to the train station. That’s one thing that I love about Korea. It’s definitely a night country. There is so much activity at night. Young and I discussed our situation. Even though in Seoul, his sister’s house was over an hour away by cab. Which would make us arrive there at about 5 am. The subway stops running from midnight to 6 am. Should we try to find a cab or just crash at a yog-wan for the night? Or hang out until 6 and take the subway there? Let’s crash now and head there tomorrow.

So, we walked a few blocks looking for a yog-wan. There weren’t any. Which is unusual. I seem to see them everywhere when I’m not looking for them. But isn’t that the way it always is. So we hailed a cab. Young asked the driver to take us to a yog-wan. He drove for a few blocks, turning down this street, turning down that one. He obviously didn’t know where one was. He was getting more and more perturbed. He finally stopped the cab and told us to get out. What? But, but… He wasn’t taking us any further. So, we got out. And started wandering again. Young complained he was hungry. He’s always hungry. I just looked at him. We were in the middle of nowhere. Where were we going to get food? Where were we going to sleep? After a few minutes we saw a C-Space, the Korean version of 7-11. We wandered in. Young got a couple of ramen and mandu and heated them in the microwave. Maybe it was the lack of sleep, but all I could think was, “I am standing in a Korean convenience store at dawn eating instant ramen. I never would have imagined….” After our quick snack we found a yog-wan a few blocks away. Young complained that it looked old. Again, I just looked at him. Dude. We’ve been wandering for over an hour now. We’ve seen no yog-wans. Old or not, I’m tired. It’s almost 5 am. We got a couple of rooms. As I laid down to sleep I noticed something scurrying across the floor. I was too tired to even investigate.

The next day we traversed Seoul. Seoul is a big city. I think it has 10, maybe 11, subway lines. We did many things on Friday, ate at Young’s friend’s restaurant, went to Dongdaemun Market, ate dinner with Young’s sister and her husband, met friends for drinks, but what I remember most was the subway. Studying the map, making sure we were on the right line, heading the right direction. Transferring at this station. Running down the platform to catch the train before it sped away. Stashing our bags in lockers.

Friday night we met several of Young’s friends from Seoul at another’s friend’s restaurant. He had told me that these were friends he had attended English Institute with and that they all spoke English very well. I don’t expect Koreans to speak English to me. I realize I’m in Korea. I’m trying very hard to learn Korean. But it definitely helps when the person I’m speaking to knows a little English so I can supplement my elementary Korean. If Young’s friends did know English, they chose not to use it Friday night. I tried to follow along in the conversations, recognizing a word here, a word there, trying to string together the grammatical endings to make sense of the garble of sounds around me. Mostly, I sat there and smiled. Watched the interactions between the two men and three women. After a couple of hours we headed to a karaoke room. I sang along to a couple of the songs, but most were in Korean and I couldn’t follow the words quickly enough. After an hour or so, we all left.

In the cab, Young turned to me. “I’m sorry.” For what? “My friends. So arrogant. They know English. They just not speak.” No worries.

But it bothered me. Not that they wouldn’t speak to me. But that I just spent an entire evening in the company of 5 other people and maybe said 10 sentences the whole night. That’s not me. That’s not who I am. I then began to think of my friends back home. And how much I miss them. Young hit me on the shoulder. “What? Why you quiet?” Oh, I’m just thinking. I miss my friends. And at that point the tears slowly started rolling down my cheeks. I tried so hard to stop them. “Rori. Your friends. They good people. I see pictures. They be there.” I know. I know. And I had a good time tonight. I really did. Thank you for inviting me to Seoul. I just, I feel so, well, not like me. This isn’t who I am, Young. I don’t usually sit quietly and not speak. “My friend like you.” And I liked them. But, Young, I’m normally such a fun person. I like to talk to people. This feels strange to me.

We sat in silence for a couple of minutes. It was raining heavily. I watched the drops stream down the window, making paths here, tracks there. Young hit me again. What? “Lori….” I turned to him. “You cannot fall in love with me.” What???? Young is always joking with me, so I thought this was his attempt to cheer me up. I laughed and said, Joke, right? “No, I think you are in love with me. This will not work. You are American. I am Korean. I cannot marry you. It will be too many problems.”

Okay, so now I’m not only homesick. I not only miss my friends. I not only miss being able to talk to people. But I now have to explain to Young that I am *not* in love with him, that, truthfully, the thought of marrying him had never even entered into my realm of reality. And to try to do it in a tactful way. Though many times tact and subtlety are lost in cross-cultural communication. So, as simply as possible, I said, I know it will not work. I am not in love with you. Really. It is okay. Where he got this idea from, I do not know.

A Night Out With The Teachers

Saturday I returned to Daegu. Saturday is my longest teaching day. Seven hours straight. It doesn’t sound like a lot, but it is. Running from class to class, with only a couple of minutes in between each to collect the correct papers, books, student assignments, etc. In between classes, I saw Brian, a teacher who I really like from the other campus. Dude, what are you doing here? I’m meeting two of the guys (former head teacher and another teacher) for dinner and drinks. Come and join us when you get off. I’d love to, but I teach until 10:30. We’ll still be out. Okay. I really like Brian. He’s a good guy. We were on the same plane to Korea together. It was a bonding experience. Unfortunately, he teaches at the other campus, which is over an hour away, so we don’t see each other often. I had wanted to go home and sleep, but I also wanted to take advantage of the opportunity to hang out with him for a while. So I committed to meeting them out.

A few minutes later I saw the President of the school take the former head teacher into his office. I knew by the expressions that he was being told he was no longer head teacher. Oh. And I just agreed to meet them for drinks later. This is not good. I thought about it for a long time. Should I still meet them? Will I still be welcome? Okay, I’ve got to face him sometime. Maybe a less formal situation would be better. So, after my shift I gave them a call. They told me the name of the bar where they were. Okay, I’ll be there shortly.

I walked in, the three of them were sitting at a table together. I waved from across the room, then joined them at the table. The former head teacher went to the bar to get me a drink. The other teacher went to the restroom. Brian leaned over and whispered quickly, “Heads up. President talked to former head teacher. He knows he’s been fired and you’re his replacement.” I looked at him. I know. I saw them talking. “Wow. You’ve got balls. I wouldn’t have still come out.”

The two men joined us. This is the demographics at the table. Me. 33 year old American. Brian. 50-something Canadian. Ted, former head teacher. 40-something American. Other teacher. Early 50-something American. When we’re all at the table, the other teacher, who has obviously had a lot to drink, leans over to me and slurs, “Guess what?” I don’t know, what? “Every night I have a 19 year old waiting at home to f*ck me.” There aren’t many things that render me speechless. I looked at him, took a deep breath, and said, That’s really more than I need to know about your personal life. He started to explain more, at which point the other two guys cut him off. This is what I came out for?

Ted quickly changed the conversation. “I had a meeting with the President today.” Really? “You don’t know?” Yes, I do. I’m sorry. I hope there are no hard feelings. “Not at all. When he told me I was demoted, I hoped you would be my replacement. You’re the only one who is qualified. Good luck.” Wow. I wasn’t expecting that. At all. It definitely increased my respect for him. “So, did they offer you xx amount as well to take over the position?” No, they didn’t. They offered me about half of that. Very interesting. Thank you.

The rest of the evening was fairly uneventful. We talked about sports, weather, travels, life in Korea, basic things. And I discovered soju lemonade. Bad, bad, bad….

The Terrible Day

On Sunday afternoon Young called me. “It is the most terrible day.” Why? “I, in library. Wallet stolen.” No….. That’s horrible. I’m so sorry, Young. What a bummer. “My life. Gone. No keys. No money. Call you later.”

I taught until 10:30 again. At about 11 the phone rang. It was Young. “Come out. Meet us.” Who? Where? “My team (the web designers from school – him and two women) We at nightclub. Come dance. Me, terrible day today. Be happy.” I don’t know, I have to tutor in the morning. “Please, Rori. My day so terrible.” Okay, I’ll be there in a bit.

It was fun. The music was loud, but danceable. There were various live singers and groups. It was very entertaining. During a break, we were sitting at our table. The waiter came by. Young began to talk to him, then introduced me. He used a phrase I wasn’t familiar with. The waiter and I exchanged a few pleasantries then he left. I turned to Young. What did you say to him? I understood teacher, American, but what was the other? “Girlfriend. You my girlfriend.” Joke, right? He got a very serious look on his face. “No, serious. Really. You my girlfriend. You one of many girlfriends to me.” What do you mean, Young? (I was giving him the benefit of the doubt, sometimes words translate differently.) “Girlfriend. You. Me. Together.” Young, I’m not your girlfriend. “But you like me?” Yes, I do. But as a friend. You’re my friend. Not boyfriend. “But I like you. You one of many girlfriends to me.” See, that’s another problem. And here, I used conditional clauses, which are sometimes hard for native speakers to understand, much less non-native speakers. Young, if I *were* your girlfriend, which I’m not, but if I *were*, well, I’d have a problem with the “one of many” aspects. I don’t do that. I’m not “one of many.” “This, terrible day. Worst day.” And with that we parted ways. I’m sad.

Sum, Sum, Sum, Sum, Summertime…

It’s hot here now. I don’t know what happened to that thing called spring, but it’s gone. Just a month ago, I was hiking in a snow storm. Now, it’s hot. I leave my windows open at night, braving the mosquitoes, to encourage cool air to circulate through my warm apartment. The weather presents another problem. I only brought winter clothes. And a bathing suit. But I can’t wear that all the time.

So tonight I went to DongA, that department store that has everything. Nine floors of consumer goods, three dedicated to women’s clothing. I knew I would pay a little more, but I wanted the convenience of price tags and sizes. Or so I thought. All I wanted was a short sleeve top. That’s all. I wandered from department to department, looking at the fashions. Hmmm… not really my style. But it’s hot outside. So I approached the expedition with an open mind, my chance to discover a “new” look I otherwise might not try.

This was my experience tonight. Each floor is divided into about 20 or 30 different sections, based on the brand name of the clothing sold. I would walk into a section, start flipping through the racks of tops, the sales woman would walk up to me. “Annyong ha-sayo…” I would offer. She would return my greeting. Then look me up and down, cluck her tongue, shake her head and say, “no size-a” and motion for me to leave. After the, oh, fifth time this happened, I was almost in tears. I don’t want to wear wool throughout the summer. Then there’s the whole body image thing. I’m not fat. I’m tall. I’m athletic. I’m also curvy. Think Brandy Chastain meets Marilyn Monroe. Yet compared to the women here, I feel like an Amazon. And to have women tell me to leave their section of the store, well, it’s not a good feeling.

I was getting ready to leave the store, empty handed and dejected, when I stopped to look at one last rack of tops. The saleswoman came over and offered a cheery “Annyong ha-sayo.” I returned the greeting and smiled at her. She gave me the once over. No, not again. Please. She didn’t say anything, but left, and moments later came back with an armful of short sleeve sweaters, some medium, some large. I could have kissed her. I don’t know the word for “dressing room” but I pantomimed trying the clothes on. She looked around, then motioned me to a closet. Yes, a closet. I don’t know. Maybe they don’t have dressing rooms here. Hell, why do they need them – everyone wears a small. I tried on all she offered to me. Fortunately, two fit. She seemed so happy. She tried to get me to buy each of the two styles in the rainbow of colors they were offered. I didn’t like them *that* much, but I did appreciate her effort. I left the store with two short sleeve tops. It’s amazing how the littlest things can feel like the biggest accomplishments.

Playing Postman

Everyday there is mail in my mailbox at home. Most I recognize as junk mail. I think. But I’m a little paranoid. What if I throw away something important? So every week I have a ritual. I sort all my mail into piles. That which I think is junk mail, that which I’m not sure, and that which has my name on it (in Korean – not many of these). Then I take the piles to school with me and ask Little Kim to review them. Are these important? Can I throw these away? Up until now, he’s taken the bills out (I get a phone bill and a utility bill) and thrown everything else out. Today, however, he handed the bills back to me. What? What should I do with these? “Pay them.” How? (I don’t have a checking account here.) “Miss Rori.” Yes? “Take them to post office. Or bank.” Okay. Then what? “Pay them.” At the post office? Him, getting exasperated, “Yes.” As if I was supposed to know this.

So I went to the post office. I saw the digital number system, but I didn’t see the ticket dispenser. I looked and looked. I walked up to the counter where there was no line. The clerk said, from what I understood, take a number. “Odi?” Where? She pointed. I am such a dork. The number taker was right beside me. I took a number and started to sit down. She called to me. My number was up. Why did she just make me take a number when there was no one in line? Life tires me sometimes.

But I did pay my bills. I will continue to have electricity and phone service for at least another month.

OH MY GOD!

I just killed the largest mosquito I have ever seen. It was as big as a baseball. No one told me there would be mosquitoes here. This is not good…

I Think…

some of my students say things, just to see if, or how, I’ll react. I always introduce the class exercises by saying, “Look! We’re so lucky! Today we’re going to play a game!” And most of the time the students get very excited – ohh – a game! In one of my intermediate grammar classes (12 year olds?) we were pretending we were going on a camping trip. In turn, each student had to say a food item we would take with us, beginning with a, then b, then c, and using the correct form of “a/an” or “some.” One of the students in particular, Min Sok, likes to see my reactions. For d, of course, he listed “some dog.” No surprise there. I smiled, then went on to the next student. For h, he offered “some horsemeat.” I joked that with all of the meat he was taking, his backpack was going to be very heavy. Then, the next time around, I can’t even remember what letter he had, he said something in Korean. I asked him to choose an English word. “But, teacher, you allowed Jin Ho to say kimbop.” Yes, I did. Okay. What was your word? He repeated it. It wasn’t one I was familiar with. I don’t know that one, what is it? The other students (both boys) looked like they were about to explode. Min Sok smiled and said, “Well, it’s like cigarettes.” The other boys said, “But not regular cigarettes. Magic cigarettes. Make you very, very happy. Like drug-as.” I seeeee… Hmmmm, Min Sok, technically, I don’t think that’s food. What else can you think of – you know, that we could eat or drink? He was disappointed. I think he thought he would get me flustered with that one.

Oh, No….

I spent the day with my friend Ju-Hyung today. We had lunch downtown then she gave me a tour of her university. As we were walking around, she commented that my Korean had really improved. I think she was just being nice. I thanked her then she said,

“But…”

Oh, no. What? What is it?

“Well, you talk like old man.”

What?

“Many of your phrases, they are like a grandfather.”

Oh, no. I learn many phrases from the men at so-yae.

“Maybe you should stop.”

Yeah. Maybe. Thanks.

Skinship

Ju-Hyung, her friend “Angel” (I love how people won’t tell me their Korean names…) and I were sitting on the benches on campus talking. About random things. Life in Korea. Work. School. Visting abroad. Angel made a face towards some other students. What? What is it? Ju-Hyung whispered to me, “skinship” and gave me a knowing nod. Huh? What? “Skinship,” and she nodded again. I looked from Angel to Ju-Hyung. I shook my head to indicate I didn’t understand. Ju-Hyung looked at Angel, “Is it Konglish?” Angel replied, “I think maybe.” I piped in, I think yes. This is not an English word I know of. What is it? “Well, when people touch. In public. Public intimacy.” Oh. Like what we were doing earlier (as we walked around campus, she intertwined her arm in mine)? “NONONONONO! Only between man and woman. Not woman/woman.” Oh. At this point, I was really curious. I glanced over at the guilty couple, expecting to see bodies intertwined, tongues a lickin’. They were sitting next to each other. Holding hands. Nothing flagrant. That? Ju-Hyung nodded, narrowing her eyes. But, Ju-Hyung, I’ve seen you hold your boyfriend’s hand. I see people do that everywhere. Angel tried to explain, “But different. When single people see skinship, bad. Very bad. But if you do it, okay.” There’s got to be a word for this logic.

New Pics

are posted at www.loriloo.com from The Going Away Party, The Welcome Party, and the Palgongsan Temple Visit. Enjoy!

My Easter

The holidays are hard when you’re not in your regular environment. It is a beautiful spring day. Sunny, not too hot, not too cool. The flowers are blooming, petals drifting to the ground when the wind blows ever so gently. I know it is Easter, and yet…

I see many churches here, but all the services are in Korean (as well they should be – I realize I’m in another country). I thought about going to the local church here, just to experience the service, hear the music. But then I thought not. It could be just the thing that would bring tears to my eyes. There are no Easter bunnies. No chocolates. No marshmallow peeps. I love those things. I know they’re nothing but sugar and food dye, but, mmmmm, good stuff. No Easter egg hunts. I miss my godchildren. I miss the excitement of children at the holidays.

I had planned to meet a friend for lunch. We were to meet at the omnipresent landmark, DongA department store. I walked there and sat on a bench out front, just enjoying watching people walk by, enjoying the warm sun on my face. Two of my students passed; they excitedly stopped (one was on roller blades, the other on a bike) to talk. They were on their way to get hamburgers. They left. Bye teacher! I was enjoying such a sense of calm when I felt someone beside me. “I think you are an English teacher.” Well…, yes…, I am. “I sit here.” Well…, okay.” And the conversation began.

Im never quite sure how to react to this. I’ve gotten used to (sort of, not completely) not talking to people. It surprises me when people randomly approach me now. Most people want to practice English. I can understand that. There aren’t that many native speakers here. But, most of the people who approach me are men. And given my recent experiences with random Korean men, I’m a little wary about talking to strangers. My key strategy now is asking lots of questions (giving them a chance to speak English) and offering as little personal information as possible.

His name was Min Sop. He’s a medical student. He plays keyboard in a band. He plays basketball. He was surprised I play also. He’s been to the US once, for the Atlanta Olympics. He stopped in San Francisco for 5 hours. He wanted to know where I taught. Oh, a private hogwan. High school students. Are you married? This is undoubtedly one of the first questions asked, by men and women. I don’t understand it. No. I’m not. Do you live alone? Again, another very common question. I’m not sure if it’s one they learn in class, or if it’s just not considered rude to ask that here. Yes, I do. Rice-a-roni. At this, I turned and faced him. What? Rice-a-roni?and he smiled. Was he making a joke since I was from San Francisco? I looked at him quizzically. He then said, “My pronunciation so bad. One more time. Aren’t you lonely?” Oh… no. I’m not. I’m not lonely at all. At this point I had been waiting for my friend for almost 45 minutes. Hmm. Maybe he’s lost. Maybe he decided not to come. I told Min Sop I was going home, but it was nice to meet him. He wanted to know if we could play basketball together one day. Sure. No problem.

It turns out my friend and I were at different DongAs (there are three in the city). So, I didn’t get to have Easter lunch, but I possibly met a new basketball buddy…

Going Away, or New Year’s Eve, Revisited

Last night was Rob’s going away party. He had been hired on a 3 month contract because he had already been offered a position to teach in Japan starting in April. So we all knew he wasn’t here for the year, but, man, three months has passed by so quickly.

I was told about the going away party at 2 on Friday afternoon. It was to start at 10 pm, after classes ended for the night. After getting over my initial frustration (advance notice – hello?), I accepted the fact that this was a work function and I was expected to be there. So I went. I can’t say it was the best night I’ve ever had, but it certainly wasn’t the worst, either. It was held at Bakkus (sic), a “salon room” establishment. I’m still not sure the implications of that. During one of the speeches, Mr. Drunk Dialer asked if we knew where we were. I answered, “Bakkus.” He wanted to know what kind of establishment it was. Since it had karaoke, I answered, “noribang.” No, no, no. This is not noribang, you silly girl. It is a salon room. I’m sure the men here know what I’m talking about… I looked around. Hmmm. There were, oh, at least 15 men present. And two women. Me and Darla, the female teacher from the other school. (Chanta was sick.) No one ventured to clue us in. Later, when a couple of the Korean women showed up, I meant to ask them. I forgot.

There were no more than 20 people present at any one time during the evening (people came and left). The room we were in was about 25 feet by 20 feet. Not huge. Very comfortable. A few couches. A few tables. A large tv/karaoke screen in one corner. Yet, whenever someone got up to make a speech, he insisted on using a microphone. We were all close enough to hear. I don’t know why microphones were used. The microphone added comic effect, though. I was quite entertained. Especially when one person would make a speech and the sound would reverberate, and another person would attempt to translate, adding more reverberation on top of the original reverberation. So basically, all we heard was unintelligible sound waves bouncing off the walls. And cell phones ringing. There are always cell phones ringing here.

We attempted karaoke. Interesting. The audio was the music to the songs, but the video was a continuous wet t-shirt and beach strip scene video. When Mr. Drunk Dialer began the evening with Unchained Melody (of course) and I saw the video, I thought to myself, “Hmmm. That’s an interesting art concept for that song. I’ve never quite thought of it in that way before. Kind of the white trailer trash rendition.” But when the buxom babes from California graced us with their presence for every song, I realized the video wasn’t queued to the audio; it was simply added value. How lucky can I get?

After a few rounds of karaoke, Mr. Drunk Dialer insisted on reading Rob’s letter of recommendation out loud to the group. Another very interesting tradition I’ve never witnessed before. Then he prepared everyone “Korean jungle juice.” Which the Canadians called boiler-makers. I’ve seen it before, but I don’t know the name. A shot of whiskey dropped into a large glass of beer, slammed on the table, swirled, then drunk in one shot. I did the obligatory one, then refused any refills. Since coming to Korea, I’ve become a sipper.

Peter, my snowboarding buddy from the other school, and I decided to sing a song together. Brown Eyed Girl. One of my favorites. And I’ve realized that it doesn’t matter that I can’t actually sing. People are impressed that I can say the words. Kind of like how I’m impressed when the Koreans sing along with Korean songs. Because I can’t. So we belted out the tune, laughing the whole time because our singing abilities are about equal.

Halfway through the song there was an instrumental part. We were dancing and giggling. I looked up at the rest of the group and realized that Mr. Drunk Dialer was videotaping me. I finished the song, then went over to him. “You, you are such a good singer.” Thanks. Listen, it makes me really uncomfortable when you videotape me. Could you not do it anymore? Thanks. He basically ignored me and started talking about the high school word etymology class he teaches. The phrase for this week: unrequited love. I just looked at him. I don’t know that that’s a phrase that’s going to be well, really helpful for high school seniors. See you later. And I left. And, didn’t receive a call in the middle of the night. This could be progress.