For the most part, I’ve been able to go with the flow when managing Mom’s Alzheimer’s. It doesn’t bother me to hear the same question, multiple times, in a short time period. It doesn’t bother me to answer the same question, multiple times. It doesn’t bother me to help her understand how to use a spoon. Or the toilet. It doesn’t bother me when she’s impatient to do the next thing.

At lunch, we were holding hands and playing a version of patty cake (she likes more physical touch these days), and she was mumbling words and phrases that didn’t make much sense, and I was nodding and saying “yes” and “um hm” and generally acting like I understood what she was trying to communicate, and out of the blue she said, “I don’t have any children.” I know it’s the disease speaking. I know that her life is confined to the present moment. And I felt a lump in my throat, and tears welling up in my eyes.

What more do we desire that to see, and be seen? To be recognized, and to be acknowledged. Daresay, to be loved?

I was determined not to cry. I nodded and said, “No?” And she shook her head. Then, looking into my eyes, she said, “I’m glad you’re here.”